Men and Women Creating Connection - The Girls's Turn

[Elese]

This week it's all about the girls as Rich Litvin and I get the skinny on how honesty is the world's biggest aphrodisiac (really!) with Alexis Shepperd, Ph.D. Co-creator of The Authentic Woman Experience. Alexis teaches women how to attract powerful, caring men and how to express their feelings, follow their desires and fall in love with life. She supports men and women to create profoundly passionate, loving and authentic relationships.

We talk about what works, what doesn't, how to make a request and how to stop pretending being something you are not and how that will make you HOT!

If you are a woman who would, yunno, really just hate being irresistable to great men then avoid this show... ;)

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[Elese]

We didn't have enough time to talk about this from Carol and I promised to post it here:

How do I ask questions when my guy hates questions?

Comments? Suggestions?

For me I think the key is making sure I have a genuine question, I ask as best I know how at right kind of time and place and then I check that I am open to the answer- including the answer "I don't want to talk right now". Keep questions open rather than closed. Not, "You do want to go my mom's now right?" (closed) is different from "It is OK if we go to my Mom's?" But mainly, stay centered in yourself and don't take things personally.

If you want him to explain his behavior - try to avoid "why do you do this?' (expecially with the 'what the heck is wrong with you look on your face') and opt for "I noticed this and didn't want to assume I know what's going on for you ... would you mind telling me?"

Before any discussion it's never a bad thing to remember you both have shared humanness. We all mess up. We all want to be happy. We all want to avoid suffering.

Dont' pretend you know the answer to his problem and don't use a question for you to open up the space in order to tell him what you think his BIG problem is. His problems are for him. You are you and probably have your own to look after.

Take responsibility for your own feelings and words and come from a place of love. You can even breath Peace in and out before you start...



Peace out!

[Truly Rich]

Thanks for calling in, Carol. You brought up something I can really relate to...

Re: How do I ask questions when my guy hates questions?

As a guy, sometimes I notice I'm not in the mood to answer questions. It would be great if I could say something like "You know, I don't feel like answering questions right now. Let's talk after dinner and I'll give you 20 minutes to ask all the questions you want."

My mistake is that I often don't set my own boundaries like that. So I 'pretend' to stay present with my partner when I really don't want to be answering questions - and then she senses I am not totally present and we BOTH end up getting mad!

I think what would work for me is if my partner said, "Rich, I have some questions I'd love to ask because I'm really curious. When would be a good time for me to ask you those questions?"

love. rich
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[Truly Rich]

Here's me giving a video answer!

http://tinyurl.com/QuestionsForYourMan

[Truly Rich]

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Love. Rich